Phresh Relationship Talk

Be you. 
Nobody really wants a relationship with someone who doesn’t know themselves and isn’t comfortable within their own skin.  Get in touch with who you are at your core, and the build your life around it.

Be sincere, loving, respectful, trustworthy, humble and happy.
It’s hard to not be happy around people who honour these traits.  Sincerely be the person people want to be with.

Be forward focused.
Living in the past really does not get you anywhere, and it can make you miserable.  Live in the moment and focus on what you do want from your future.

Be independent.
Guys and girls like to have a partner in their life to complement it, not burden it.  Be the person that satisfies as many of your own needs as possible so that your partner is simply a friend to share your experiences with.

Be forgiving. 
Everyone makes mistakes and the grass usually isn’t greener on the other side.  Get some perspective and realise that every relationship comes with challenges.  Carrying the negativity that comes with holding grudges is a sure fire way to create more problems in your relationship and feel miserable within yourself.

Be aware of your daily habits. 
How you and your relationships evolve is dependent upon you and the choices you make.  Your daily habits, good and bad, are based on daily decisions you make which either enhance or damage your relationship.  Choose wisely.  The next tip is one such habit and it’s just a choice.

Be solution focused. 
You will always encounter relationship problems; always looking for solutions puts you in an empowered emotional state and will help ensure you resolve issues rather than perpetuate your fears, concerns, anger, resentment, insecurities and health.  People either look at problems or look at solutions.  You know which one is most helpful.  Just pick the right one.

Be giving. 
People bond with givers and people only stay in relationships with people they get something from, whether that’s laughter, emotional support, gestures of love, or something else.  That’s life.  If you’re not adding value to the people in your life, they may not be there forever.

Be a communicator. 
Probably the single biggest reason for relationship breakdown, breakups and divorce, is lack of communication.  Over time, a lack of communication will completely unravel your relationship.  Make no mistake about it, communication is key.  Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, sometimes you have to remember the other person isn’t psychic, and sometimes you have to care enough to speak up, even when you would rather not.

Be a good memories creator. 
Your perception of your relationship with yourself and others is based on the associations you have created.  Create good memories with your partner, and if you only have miserable ones at the forefront of your mind, then you better crack on and replace them with good ones.  As Maya Angelou once: “People may not always remember what you did or said but they will always remember how you made them feel.”